So you wake up, put on your fiercest business attire, walk into your office ready to take over the world and BAAAAAM … the hater is in your face ready to give you a daily dose of their get-under-your-skin antics. You put your professional footforward, fool yourself one more time into thinking you can just be nice, keep your mouth shut, and ignore the hate, hoping it will die down and disappear. In actuality, all you have done is avoid conflict, a solution that brings momentary peace and is the calm before the storm.
Failing to address interpersonal problems in the workplace leads to loss of productivity and low morale, along with a host of other issues. This building resentment and hateration is hard to get rid of if not addressed at the onset. Hate can grow to a point of no return. At that point, the only solution is for the person causing the resentment to leave or “be punished.”
But, what do you do when you have to go to work and face someone who hates you for a myriad of unknown reasons, made you the victim of malicious office gossip, sabotaged your work and slandered your good name? You can continue to take the high road and ignore the taunting, but it will eventually take a toll on you if you let it.
I’m going to address those haters and tell you how to recognize them, why they hate, and how to rise above it.
How to Recognize Them
Haters come in all forms. They are usually the ones that want what you have. Instead of focusing that negative energy on getting smarter, building work alliances, and creating a more productive work environment, they are the ones snickering at all your success and promotions.
Every compliment is countered with a negative undertone: “Nice samples of your new jewelry line. I see the pricing is low. It must be cheap,” is a statement a hater would make. Or, if ever there’s a time you make a mistake, they run and shout it on the hills as if it’s the hot topic of the day. They are the people who always look at you with the side eye or their lip slightly turned up, usually for no reason at all. They thrive off negativity and foster feelings of inadequacy in all their relationships.
Why They Hate
No doubt this behavior stems from childhood where they are taught to view their own personal appearance, personal value and worth with a critical eye, never quite measuring up. Bottom line, they have personal issues within themselves that most likely stem from jealousy, bitterness, inferiority, anger]and shame.
There are a number of causes behind a person being a hater and having negative attitudes in the workplace or their personal life. The foremost among these is dissatisfaction with the way their life is going or has shaped up. If a person is in an unfulfilling relationship, or if they find themselves pursuing a profession they are least interested in, they are bound to feel frustrated and develop negative feelings.
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